Keep the middle of the table under eye level. Anything taller than a seated guest’s line of sight turns one dinner into two conversations, so height belongs at the ends of the table, on a sideboard, or in candlesticks slim enough to see past.
Choose one metal and one candle color and carry them down the whole table. Brass beside silver reads as borrowed; a single finish reads as planned, even when the pieces came from three different places.
Leave room for the food. A tablescape that fills every inch looks beautiful at four o’clock and has to be taken apart at six, so the greenery runs down the center in a narrow line and the serving dishes have somewhere to land.
Set one place first and repeat it. Plate, charger, napkin, flatware and glass decided once and carried down the table is what makes a table look calm; a new idea at every place looks busy, however good each one is.
Light it low and warm. Once the overhead light is dimmed the candles do most of the work, so they go at more than one height and well clear of the greenery, with the chandelier turned down rather than off.